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This post has stemmed from a lot of hatred on social media lately. People comment on people’s intakes and that’s not okay.
It’s different if you’re genuinely worried about an individual but more times than not, the comments come in an aggressive way and in a way that aims to talk down to the other person. Comments like; “are you sure that’s enough for you?” or “that’s far too little, you need to eat more” stem from negativity and that’s what needs to change. If you truly feel like it’s necessary to comment on someone’s intake then comments like “hey, I’m quite worried because what you’re eating doesn’t seem like enough for me so I’m wondering if it’s enough for you” or “are you feeling satisfied after that meal?” are far much better comments because they aren’t negatively targetting someone.
Another key way to better talk to someone about their intake is to message or speak to them privately. Not on public social media where everyone can see because it makes the other person look bad. That’s the difference between aims of calling someone out for their food and actually caring about them.
Here’s a heads up: don’t comment on anyone’s intake when they’ve specifically stated that they are recovering from an eating disorder and topics around food make them uncomfortable. AND that they are sure that they eat enough on a daily basis.
It’s really that simple. It really upsets me because I know I’m eating enough. I check frequently because I am too frightened of eating too little. I get support from people around me to make sure I am eating enough. I am far too paranoid to eat too little and that’s just that. But I still get comments that make me think otherwise.
If anything, it fuels my eating disorder voice more. Why? Because the people “warning” me that I’m not eating enough pleases the voice. It makes it more loud and apparent which is the opposite of what I need. I’m sure others in recovery feel the same here? It also distorts the view of how much is enough. For example, my daily intake of food is around 2000 calories to 2200 calories (it varies each day obviously) and someone mentions a lack of food or whatever, it makes me feel like my perfectly healthy diet is not enough regardless of how much logic is telling me it definitely is enough.
Just don’t comment on anyone’s intake because everyone is different. What may be enough for one person may not be enough for another because not everyone was made the same, with the same amount of energy needed. If someone is very clear that they know they are eating enough, that’s okay. Leave them alone. If someone tells you they feel satisfied after every single meal and eat enough to feel full, THEN that’s okay too. I feel like I’m reiterating my point here but everyone’s body is different and what people can eat daily is different.
If someone doesn’t work out that often, they evidently don’t need enough kilo-joules as someone who works out daily. If someone has an office job and isn’t really on their feet a lot, they don’t need as much food as someone who is constantly on the move or whatever. Everyone is different and therefore they need different foods and energy as the next person.
That being said, I don’t think it’s fair that anyone should comment on what people eat. No one has the complete knowledge to make a judgement of what someone’s diet should look like.