Hiya everyone! I wasn’t going to do one of these. When I saw that the season was being renewed, I was like nope nope nope you can fuck off, but I’ve decided against that. I know everyone is doing these type of videos/posts to death and I bet you’re all sick of them. But I wanted to give my two cents because I did one last year – My two cents on 13 Reasons Why. Trigger warnings for suicide, rape, self harm and all that jazz.
I hear a lot of people moaning about people affected by the atrocity that is 13 Reasons Why – a Netflix original series. And it baffles me that people are moaning about someone being triggered or affected by a tv show that poorly portrays bullying or mental illness.
Whilst YES I am fully aware that they do provide trigger warnings. I am so unbelievably grateful that they provide trigger warnings, they are definitely useful. Alas, that’s not the point. They are useful for shows that contain scenes of insinuated suicide, not shows that contain graphic as fuck scenes of someone cutting their wrists open and bleeding to death in a bathtub. Trigger warnings for that kinda thing should be a little more detailed than “oh yeah.. this show definitely may have scenes that viewers may find upsetting”. That may cover their backs yes, but it’s not detailed enough. What exactly are you warning us for?
This TV show is about mental illness and you’re telling me that someone who is struggling with a mental health condition will not watch it? You’re also telling me if a major movie company brought out a film about women’s rights and the atrocities that they went through, that women wouldn’t be like “uhhhh maybe I would watch this and this affects me!”. You’re telling me that an LGBT+ movie would not be watched by LGBT people? Exactly what I thought. You can’t just fucking say, “if you know it’s going to affect you, why watch it?” because if someone makes a fucking movie about something I’ve been through, I am bloody well going to watch it.
Ever heard of self-gaslighting? Causing yourself pain or forcing yourself to struggle. AKA triggering yourself. Mentally ill people do this all the fucking time. Not that this is Netflix’s or the shows fault because I am fully aware that’s an issue that only the individual and therapy can solve. BUT maybe they shouldn’t include scenes that literal mental health professionals have advised them to not include. It’s obviously going to trigger people regardless.
I avoided the trigger warnings because I was promised a show that portrayed mental health issues and was groundbreaking. I did not get that. I got a graphic suicide scene that left me physically and mentally frozen for an hour because I couldn’t justify moving or going on with my life in fear that I would do something dangerous to myself. Yes it triggered me that much. Yes, they provide trigger warnings but THAT IS NOT THE REASON WHY MANY MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE ARE UPSET.
The fact that people who have not been affected by this are moaning/having a go at people who this show directly targets and are getting upset over it is fucking dreadful. Wake the fuck up. Wake up enough to realise that this show is a shit show. It shouldn’t have even been aired. Be grateful you aren’t affected by this show.
Yes I am aware that it gets mental health talked about for a total of five minutes – big woop. It gets people of all backgrounds speaking up along the lines of “we need to stop bullying” or “suicide isn’t the answer guys!!” but after that it goes back to “ughhhh I’m so bipolar!!” “ughhhhh I’m so ocd I love my room being cleaned” or “I have chronic anxiety because of a damn test”. It does absolutely fuck all for advocating against the stigma that is the mental health stigma. So actually I don’t apologise that I’m not exactly thrilled by this tv show being remade into a second season.
Trigger warnings or not, it’s a fucked show. End of story. As someone who has gone through every single fucking thing that Hannah went through in the first season, I thought I’d get a voice. Instead I got mockery for a girl who killed themselves after being sexually assaulted and bullied throughout most of her high school life. I got memes. I got no voice nor did I get support.
Before I end this blog post, I’d like to say that I am fully aware that a few people have stated that this show has helped them. Good for you. Actually, I’m so happy for you. I don’t understand but sometimes you don’t understand all coping mechanisms for mental illness, that’s fine. But I am allowed to voice my opinion on something that is so close to home for me. I’m allowed and I will do just that. I personally feel that triggers are subjective and fair enough it may not trigger some people struggling with mental health issues, but please don’t erase the struggles and pain that this show has given some people.