Hiya! I’ve had my fair share of relationship break ups and I know it’s not always obvious when you should break up. I’m going to help you here. Just a disclaimer that I am speaking from experience here and I’ve only really dating cis males long term so I apologise if I accidentally refer to the person as “him” or “he”. However, just change the pronouns to whatever your situation fits.
1. He says that he isn’t ready for a relationship at all but he still expects you to be his girlfriend in the commitment levels. I’ve been in that situation a lot and it’s not great. He has told you that you are exclusive but only on your half. You can’t be seeing anyone else but he can?! Alarm bells are ringing if after ages of being in a “relationship” and he still isn’t able to put a label on you guys, then you gotta bounce. What may happen is he may refuse to put a label on you guys for a looooong time and that’s not what you want.
2. The guy you are seeing still is disgusted by periods. If you’re older than 16 and you are still thinking that periods are gross then what are you doing? Periods are natural and in a way, aren’t you glad that you haven’t got the person pregnant?! If you’re dating someone who gags with even the brief mention of tampons, you have to really question whether you are infact dating a seven year old in adult clothes.
3. He requires you to have absolutely zero hair on any part of your body aside from your head. This upsets me the most because it’s natural and I don’t think anyone should expect you to be freshly shaven at any given time. Especially when most guys walk around carrying a jungle in their pants. I think you should decide if you want to shave. If you want to be completely shaven, then do that, and if you want to not shave, that’s fine too.
4. He isn’t interested about what you want to do or what you want to say. If he speaks about things and then you voice your own opinion, and suddenly he doesn’t care then he needs to be binned. I’m not saying you need to share the same interests because that’s not always plausible but you should still have to be interested in what the other likes, ya know?
5. You’re starting to have no clue about what to say to eat other. I get it, things happen and you’d much rather sit in silence sometimes. However, there’s a fine line between this and not having a bloody clue what to speak about. If you’re finding it hard to actually speak to one another then maybe, it’s because it’s not working out not because there isn’t anything frilling happening.
Let me know if you have any more tips that you have for knowing when it’s time to break up with someone because they are always good advice!