I see a lot of people on social media having a moan about people with mental health problems venting on social media. I just want to tell you guys to shut the fuck up.
When I was my illest, I used social media to talk about my problems. I knew I had people around me to talk to but when you are MENTALLY FUCKING ILL, all your logic and rationality goes out the window. To be frank with you, I know I had friends but when I feel low, I don’t think they give a rats ass about me. Therefore, I use social media to talk about problems that I don’t necessarily feel safe enough to talk to actual human beings about.
I struggle from borderline personality disorder and if any of you don’t know what that is, be glad because it’s fucking horrible. As I’ve said in this post, it throws all of your logic out of the window. It’s a very black and white world. You feel worried about people abandoning you so therefore, you don’t talk to people. You feel empty and alone so you don’t talk to people. You feel very intense emotions and sometimes (okay most of the time) have very irrational and intrusive thoughts and therefore you don’t speak to people. To make a few symptoms, I could genuinely go on for days here.
For someone who doesn’t struggle from bpd or any other fucking mental health condition, it may seem unusual that I can’t speak to my friends and family as much as you probably can. It’s truly not fair that you consistently moan and moan about people using social media as a vent. This could lead to them closing themselves off and using no form of release which is not healthy or helpful. Hence why you should stop judging people on their coping mechanisms.
It’s important to consider that the person who you are discouraging from voicing their problems may have been involved in an abusive relationship of any kind – I’m talking a romantic one or just family/friends. They may have been abused due to voicing their emotions and you directly talking down to them is just repeating past events. I know I’m digging to many of you here but it’s true. This could happen. Someone using social media as a vent may be stepping out of their comfort zone ever so slightly due to wanting to move on from an abusive relationship, and an individual having a go at them for the same thing is just gonna push them back.
Moral of this post is, let people talk about things if they want to. We don’t owe you shit. If someone puts something on social media about being sad or triggered, it’s them venting and they don’t have to talk to anyone about why this may be if they don’t want to. They are aloud to be sad and just because they are sad doesn’t mean they have to be silenced.
Quit with the belief that if you don’t have a sound mind that you need to shut up until it’s better. That’s both toxic and senseless. Talk about how sad you are, talk about how happy you are, talk about how much you are struggling and remember, voicing your own problems doesn’t mean you are inviting others into them.