Hiya everyone! I hope you’re all doing well!
Growing up I always wanted to follow the norm. Get married, have kids, work, work and more work. I used to look up to adults who get married early and are in a happy marriage. Whilst, yes that’s still an amazing thing, it’s not something I necessarily want. I used to also think people aged twenty had their life together and set for the future. Now me being almost twenty, I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Even though still now, I do wonder when I’ll be walking down the aisle, I also wonder if I will be. I think we are forced to do these things to fit the norm. Do we get married, have kids at an early-ish age because we want to or because we’re told we’re supposed to?
At the age of 19, I am told I am supposed to know what I want to do for the rest of my life. Heck, we are told we should know at 13 when we pick our GCSE’s to do. I still don’t know what I want to do for the rest of my life and if I picked the right GCSE’s to do it.
I often shock people when they know I’m at university but I still don’t know what I want to do with my life. I don’t know what job I want to have until I retire. I don’t know who the love of my life is. I don’t know anything. Why do we need to plan our lifes because it’s even started? It’s almost as if people portray life as some sort of exam that we either pass with flying colours or fail terribly.
I for one do not want to follow the norm. I don’t want to follow the set rules given to us by god knows who and that be my life. I want my life to be more adventurous. So what if I spend my entire life travelling the world and don’t actually settle down and get married? Why should that be a thing we HAVE to do?!
Of course I’m not talking down to anyone who wants to actively follow the guidelines because it’s your life! You do as you please! That’s my exact argument. You do whatever you want with you life if it makes you happy. Whether that is having a 9-5 job with a marriage and kids on the side or whether that is travelling the world, living life with whatever it throws at you.
I for one am doing the latter. I don’t care if I never get married. I don’t care if I never have kids. I don’t care if I don’t know what I want to do with my life. All I know is I wanna have fun living it and I will do just that.