Hiya! We grow up in a world where being selfish is not seen as a good thing, and rather, you need to strive to be the opposite in order to be a good person. Whilst, this can be true in some cases, it just isn’t accurate in many.
It’s okay to want to put yourself first in certain situations. This is more of a necessity that an act of selfishness. You aren’t required to help others before you help yourself and that’s something people tend to brush under the carpet.
If you see your friends suffering or struggling with life, then yeah, if you have the ability to help then do so. BUT you don’t have to and never should you feel bad for choosing your own mental health and stability over others.
You should always put your own person first and your own mental health first. Nothing wrong with that. It takes a long time to come to terms with the fact that that is okay because it took me SOO long to understand that it’s okay.
Not all acts of selfishness are harmful to others either. Sometimes being selfish benefits everyone involved in a round about away so it’s okay. It’s not always a bad thing to be selfish and people need to understand that.